In my last post I suggested that we are locked into spiritual abuse by the desire matrix that freely flows within abusive groups; groups whose subliminal goal is to suck us in, mold us and conform us to their Utopian image. Such a desire flux usually emanates from the group’s most ‘God-like’ member, often the founder or senior leader. Once we absorb their infectious desire we gradually morph into little clones of the anointed one, further transmitting their psychic energy around the group and to the outside world beyond. Such a network of transmissions quickly gives birth to a group desire as our individual desire bonds are reinforced and reflected around the group. Over time we become little mirror images of each other in the bonded community or family of faith.
Once such a dynamic is present in a group, the level of subliminal control can be raised a notch as each member mistakes their leader Model’s desire for that of their own. Remnants of our old individual desire are now suppressed in our lower unconscious, popping up occasionally but quickly misdiagnosed as the flesh or the Satan, the destructive elements of our hell-bent pre-group life. As long as the leader or God Model keeps desire stream flowing, the group generally tows the psycho-spiritual line; at least until, a young pretender emerges from the mimetic discipleship process to challenge and perhaps replace the Model in question. But more of that in my next talk.
In the day-to-day life of the group, whilst subliminal desire locks in unsuspecting members another chain is added to maintain group cohesion and therefore any abusive control present. Simply put, both the leader Model and the group need a story, a metaphysical narrative of mythic proportions. On such a foundation or base story a philosophical world view or paradigm can be erected; one that cleverly hides the groups deadly desire exchanges in a quasi-logical protective, coating.
The group story is usually based on the early life events of its founder, especially on their initial encounters with the Divine. Often the unsuspecting, young future Model has a spiritual experience that somehow sets them apart from their religious peers. They appear as a shining light in the midst of a dark and apathetic religious sky. A beacon of hope for those fed up with dull orthodoxy, those hungering for an experiential contact with God. Strangely, the embryonic Model’s Divine encounter may in fact be genuine, yet the wounded psyche of the chosen one in question, quickly reinterprets it to protect themselves from further psychic pain and rejection. Perhaps starved of parental love as a youngster, the gifted individual feels a call to act as a spiritual parent to all who will listen. In the desert of religious nominalism such a fledgling apostle, prophet, pastor, or teacher doesn’t take long to gather a following of fellow seekers.
But why is the Model’s early life important to the group’s identity and narrative?
As the founder, the one who emerged, John The Baptist style, from the dry, religious desert, is seen as God’s parental figure, one from whom to receive nurture and genuine spiritual nourishment; a Moses of sorts to lead the seekers out of the religious ‘land of Egypt’ to the group’s ‘Promised Land’. Their mythic-like ‘calling’ narrative is the bedrock upon which the group’s future God narrative is built. Of course both Model and flock would insist that their view of the Divine is based on Divine revelation, whether Scriptural or Spirit directed, yet the interpretation of such revelation is channeled through the Model, the one who appears somehow closer to God. The authority granted to the Model through their personal myth now sets them apart to discern and teach Truth for the group. Amazingly, the willing group of listeners does not always comprise a membership with a low-level of education. Paradoxically it’s often a highly educated follower who lays aside their own take on spiritual or religious issues to sit under the authority of their charismatic Model. In my own case most of my fellow group members had university degrees, and jobs within the mainline professions, so it would appear that intelligence is not a defense against the deadly desire matrix and its God cover story.
So what of this teaching?
The theological niceties of the teaching that the group is regularly exposed to, through sermons, literature and personal one-to-one counseling sessions are many and varied but usually have a common sociological message that runs something like this.
1) God started this group.
2) God continues to back this group
3) You have been chosen by God to belong to this group.
4) You are therefore special and indeed privileged.
5) God has appointed the leadership of this group
6) If you doubt the leadership of this group you are doubting God.
7) If you doubt the Scriptural message delivered through the leadership you are also doubting God.
8) If you leave this group, you are walking out on God.
9) Such a departure may have unspoken, eternal consequences
This subliminal or sometimes overt message is commonly peppered with multifarious religious words that add to the apparent orthodoxy of the group’s beliefs and practices. No religious, nor indeed spiritual word is ruled out of the groups vocabulary.
‘Grace’ , ‘Love’, ‘Family’, ‘Covenant’, ‘Brothers and Sisters’, ‘Faithfulness’, ‘Service’,'Spiritual Discipline’, ‘Children of God’, ‘Mission’, ‘Outreach’, ‘Prayer’, ‘Spiritual Warfare’, ‘Satan’, ‘Fasting’, ‘the Flesh’ etc. are all added to the group’s linguistic psychic mix, with their interpretations and practical out workings as defined by the group’s leadership.
And so the scene is set for abusive control.
At times, the Model subtly pulls the group’s mimetic desire strings by a demonstration of their own ravenous levels of metaphysical hunger. Zealous preaching, prayer, weeping, special acts of rededication etc. acted out on in the public forum usually has the desired effect viz.the lukewarm flock are drawn back into the Model’s desire field, one cleverly disguised as a desire for God.
At other times, the Model abuses their followers by means of theological mind control, reinforcing the revelations that lock the faithful into a God, who is fickle with His Love; one who constantly needs appeasing through increased devotion to the group and of course to the Model. Dedication to the Divine is misinterpreted as dedication to the group, providing the Model with a large shepherd’s crook, one willingly used to keep the flock together; a flock that coincidentally maintains the Model’s career path within the world of religious enterprise.
In my next post I’ll look at how we can make a break for freedom; a freedom that, contrary to the group narrative, leads us into a genuine experience of Divine Love and personal authentication.
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I really appreciate that this is being discussed. I can completely relate in a lot of ways and have even decided to look for a new fellowship because I see these exact principles laid out. It really saddens me that so many leaders may have good intentions, but as you have said, have lacked love in their own lives and therefore view everything through the wrong lenses and then shove it all back out to everyone. It’s a terrible, vicious cycle!
Hi Martina.
Thanks for your most perceptive comment. A vicious cycle or perhaps spiral is exactly what we have when we subliminally latch onto the desire of a Model believer of whatever religion. It will always result in an eventual conflict between follower disciples and the Model Master. Best to understand from the beginning that all of us are broken folk, whether preacher or not. Detaching from an other’s desire field is key to survival and indeed freedom.
Blessings
Dylan
Spot on, Dylan!!!! “intelligence is not a defense against the deadly desire matrix”…..so true! Among our former faith community were a large number of college/university graduates: teachers, health professionals, lawyers, artists, etc. You don’t have to be simple-minded to be controled. “Dedication to the Divine is misinterpreted as dedication to the group”……In our flock, the leader articulated this as “If you don’t/won’t have a (lateral) relationship with the brothers & sister, you can’t have a (perpendicular) relationship with God.” Also, your list of theological nicities sums it up quite well….. Get on board with ‘the vision’ or you don’t belong. And oh how we believed it for so long!!!!
Hi Been There!
Yes the mechanics are the same the world over. The system works for a while but rivalry and abusive control or scapegoating always break out at some stage. That’s why so many folk hop around looking for the ideal church or Model believer!
Interesting that many of your fellow group members were also caring professionals! Maybe those drawn to such Utopian visions are genuinely caring by nature but at the same time easy pray for spiritual spin doctors disguised as leaders!
Blessings as always
Dylan
I think it is much simpler. I think it has more to do with the narcissitic tendencies that reside (either exposed or latent) within each of us to see ourselves as “right.” So, we look for others who will agree with us and group ourselves accordingly. (Be it an institution like a church, a poltical party, or even posting agreements on a blog.) And when we run into people who won’t join our little party we try to first convince them that they should (i.e. proselytize them) or condemn them for not doing so (i.e. unfriend them on FB). For different mediums the methods and names for this may differ, but the motivations remain the same — I’m right, you’re wrong.
Thanks for your comments Gene. Personally I believe that we are not as much in control of our decision making as your thoughts suggest. I reckon that our primary influence is always mimetic, i.e. from otheres. When we believe ourselves to be acting ‘independently’, we are rarely doing so, always open to the pull of another. I guess narcissism, although a Freudian concept, could be looked upon as the result of traumatic Model rejection. Our desire Models have hurt us to such an extent that we now look to ourselves as our Model.A bit like an inverted psychic toenail!
Blessings
Dylan
This was our exact experience. Your numbered list was exactly what we were told privately and in front of the congregation, right up until the day we departed with many tears and manipulating comments from our “leaders”. It took me a whole year to stop crying everyday from the fear of coming out from among them and thinking for myself, to stop trying to please somebody. Very very scarey and nearly took my sanity.
I can truly understand your last sentence Fiona. We can become so dependent on the group myth, that leaving it is like coming off drugs. We can doubt our sanity for the old programing is telling us that we have just walked away from the Saviour of the World. It takes a while for us to genuinely accept that not to be the case, best done outside the mind field of most religious sects. Thanks for posting your very honest and perceptive comments.
Blessings
Dylan
Interestingly, from an American perspective, you could say that this is not only what I was taught on the church level, but ALSO what I was taught about American in general:
1) God started this group (country).
2) God continues to back this group (country)
3) You have been chosen by God to belong to this group (USA)
4) You are therefore special and indeed privileged (indeed)
5) God has appointed the leadership of this group (preached from the pulpit in thousands of churches everywhere in the US)
6) If you doubt the leadership of this group you are doubting God (maybe not this one so much, but more if you completely trust and rely on the leadership, you are doubting God)
7) If you doubt the Scriptural message delivered through the leadership you are also doubting God (yep).
8) If you leave this group, you are walking out on God (pretty much. Unless you’re going to be a missionary in another country)
9) Such a departure may have unspoken, eternal consequences (yes.)
Hi Joni
Yep, I can see the parallels. Religion and Politics are just two sides of the same illusory coin. Both are mechanisms designed by human society to keep mimetic rivalry and violent contagion at bay. Both work to some extent but ultimately fail miserably. Thanks for dropping by!
Dylan
Williliam Still a man of grace and truth warned the group you are speaking of many times before he was finally rejected by them. You write a lot of sense Mr Morrison.Keep it up Sir!
Thanks for dropping by Billy. Yes the wise always see the ‘fascination’ at work within religious or spiritual communities. William Still was such a man; the zeal of youth has much to answer for I reckon, but in time they too will enter that realm of contentment and grace.
Blessings
Dylan